Dating a guy ten years younger
Dating anybody more than a decade younger than you – or sometimes even less than that – means that they’ll probably a) be much more plugged into the current cultural scene than you and b) have a totally different frame of cultural reference.
Do be understanding I can get kind of defensive when dating older guys, worried that some might see me as another notch on the bedpost, or fresh meat to pass the time until someone more serious comes along.Sometimes it’s fun to be the experienced one – especially when it’s fulfilling for both parties.Which is another good point: beware of internalised ageism.Last month’s ‘Reasons to date an older woman’ seemed to strike a chord – so here’s the other side of the coin.To be clear, by ‘younger’ we mean ‘younger than you, but of legal and appropriate age.' Half-your-age-plus-7 is the usual rule where I come from, and it’s a good general guideline.But there’s also another level, on which you learn about yourself and your needs and wants and get to be part of someone else’s learning curve, too. Older men, it seems to me, are like gold dust on the dating scene right now.Just be careful that neither of you make the other feel excluded if you’re hanging with your contemporaries!Younger lovers often haven’t progressed as far in their careers as older partners, or are still studying.There are enough hurdles to making a relationship work, however old you are, so why let age add more stress?If you don’t make it an issue, chances are it won’t be.