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Havisham, Diva, has been schooling me on Israeli men. Now, we’ve moved to practical dating advice, and I am having one of those, “Oh FUCK! I learned today that, for Israeli standards, I am obsessive and a doormat.
Because I didn’t know how things worked here, assumed that western social contracts and etiquette applied where it doesn’t, I have been basically asking to be treated like crap.
This is a place that tries to kill the civility in them, and often succeeds. A tsimmer is basically a theme inn or hotel where a couple spends a sort of romantic spa week or weekend.
There are different kinds, the sexual fantasy oriented, and the romantic.
Indeed many of them cope with life here in ways that are very understandable, but sometimes very harmful or at least counterproductive. In this context, I would like to inform any civil women out there who are single and coming to this hell hole to turn back now unless they are willing to be callous enough to take the following advice… In the category of things I wish I knew 10 years ago, I have been informed that one is not actually in a relationship with an Israeli man until he has taken her to a romantic “tsimmer” and introduced you to his friends/family as his girlfriend.It’s just that here, because it’s a small country, any upset in the balance of Nature becomes a disaster very quickly. Somehow, the infrastructure hasn’t collapsed yet, but I am guessing this is only because there are enough Russians and others from former Soviet countries here who do have some idea of a civil society, and why it’s not a good idea to let the water and sewage system go too far into disrepair.What I am trying to say is that Israel is not just not a western society. Most of the problems from the government down to the treatment of workers are because there is no such thing here as a social contract, neither explicit nor implied. Were it not for them, I am pretty sure this would be an Arab country.“You have to find an English speaker,” opined John over lunch on Hashmona’im Street last week, as I whinged about my latest debacle with Israel’s finest. But it takes a strong-willed man to settle for fish and chips or a Big Mac and fries, when he could, instead, feast on a (Jerusalem mixed grill). again) – was that perfect Ashkenazi father/Sephardi mother combo: tall, willowy, olive skin, and (Tel Aviv mix), if you like. Our third meeting – preceded by a discernible tailing-off in our flirtatious, daily text messaging – is cancelled by J, by sms, on the very same evening, with more excuses than a Hasmo boy: “pressure at work . But why is it so damn difficult to meet a nice, genuine, uncomplicated woman in this city?J, Israeli, 40 and divorced (plus none) – whom I had met through JDate (I am, depressingly, back . And we had been on two extremely encouraging dates before the start of the fun and games . Yes, yes (you slaves to your therapists), I Finding attractive women in Tel Aviv is, of course, not a problem. Most Israeli guys would have in the first date pub. Petulant and keyboard happy as ever, I cannot resist the knee-jerk response: “Not looking for great dates at this stage. I ponder, for example, whether having been bolder, more forthright, more Israeli, and having made a move in the second date tapas bar might, just might, have paid dividends.At the core of this is the complete lack of anything like honor and basic courtesy.Before anyone accuses me of antisemitism, be mindful that I am aware that the U. predominantly non Jewish, is where a lot of this crap originated. Just to be one hundred percent that my intuition is correct – I know that I will not be able to cope with the teasing thought that that body, skin and hair (and, of course, mind) might, just might . The following morning, I receive an e-mail from J containing the exact same excuses. As usual, I search for possible reasons for this latest failure. – I text J to tell her that I have got the message (that she is “not particularly interested in pursuing this”). “Will call the second I leave work.” But, again, nada.